The Real Truth About Marriage

Joelle Wisler has perfectly captured the truth about what it means to be married in her recent article for Scary Mommy. Her list of marital truths are funny and precise.  In fact, her words seemed a perfect description of my evening here at home with my own husband.

Here are a few of my favorites from her list:

Marriage is sitting reluctantly through a documentary about gold-mining, but not impaling yourself with the remote control.

Or in my case, yet another sports news show.

Marriage is sometimes flipping someone off after they turn around.

That's real. If you love them, you wait until they turn around.

Marriage is trying not to talk about the kids when you are out on a date, but failing.

Because the only other person who loves your kids as much as you and truly wants to talk about them with you is your spouse.

Marriage is remembering the story of how you got there and telling the story badly at dinner parties.

Especially when it's something super cute like meeting on the school bus. That's not even 1/2 the story, but that one line always gets an “AWW” at parties.

Marriage is jumping out and scaring the crap out of someone for fun.

I've convinced myself that this is just one of the many ways my husband says “I love you.”

Marriage is being in a social situation and having someone who can perfectly time the eye-roll that you are feeling.

And then laughing about it together after you get home.

Marriage is stopping yourself from saying, “I told you so,” when you really, really want to.

A lot.

Marriage is being wrong—a lot—and having someone tell you about it.

Also a lot.

Marriage is being up together in the middle of the night a lot—kids puking, loud sounds, stolen covers, bad dreams, snoring.

I feel oddly comforted and filled with love when it's 3:00 am and I'm rocking one kiddo back to sleep while he snuggles with the other. Go team parents!

Marriage is that one night when the kids are staying at their grandparents’ house, and you can do anything you wanted. And you end up ordering burritos, watching Netflix, and passing out on the couch.

This is exactly us!

Marriage is saying mean things and immediately hoping that they can forgive you.

Truth.

And finally, marriage is believing in this other person—really believing in them—even though you’ve seen them dance naked.

I know there is no one that believes in me more than my husband and I believe in him too. It's amazing what that kind of support can do.

Want to hear more about what marriage is really like? Check out the complete list at Scary Mommy.