How To Fall In Love With Your Husband Again

The Mother's of Preschoolers organization understands that sometimes after you become a mom, your marriage takes a backseat to your kids. It happens often without us meaning for it to happen. Our kids become the most important things in our world. We put them first all the time.

Gradually, we can forget how to love ourselves. We forget who we used to be sometimes. Then, we forget how to love our husbands. It happens to the best of us at the most unexpected times.

How can we fix it? One mom shares her tips for falling back in love with her husband:

1. I chose my husband over work.
I set aside evenings to spend with him. We put technology away, and played Ping-Pong in the garage. He began to make me belly-laugh again.

It doesn't sound easy. With so little time in the day, it's hard to put our work on the back burner. Too often we just expect our husbands to understand and accept that we can't give them what they need right now. I'm sure my husband does understand, but that doesn't mean it doesn't hurt him or hurt our relationship when I choose to work on my computer instead of spending time with him after the kids finally go to sleep.

2. I began to believe that my husband loved me.
He tells me all the time, but at some point, I stopped hearing him. He loves me. For better or worse, till death do us part. He loves me.

How many times do our husband's try to tell us that they love us? that we're beautiful? Mine tells me all the time. Most of the time I'm not really listening or I assume he's saying it out of a sense of duty and not because he really means it. What would happen if we chose to just believe them? We'd probably start to feel better about ourselves, our husbands, and our marriage.

3. I prioritized my husband over the kids.
Somewhere along the way, my priorities had shifted, and my children had somehow become more important than my marriage. But it’s my marriage that will be here long after the kids go. So I began to focus on loving my husband first, and my kids, second, because I knew in the long run that would bless my children the most.

This is the hardest thing for me. It's hard for my husband too. We instinctively put our children first. I think the key is to not let our children's wants overshadow our very real needs. Their needs should always come first. But it's okay for their wants to take a backseat to our needs sometimes. Spending time together and feeding our marriage is a need. It's important to give that priority sometimes.

Emily Wierenga, author of 5 ways to fall back in love with your husband, also suggests we apologize when we need to and stop comparing our husband to other men. Read the full article at MOPs site to hear more about Emily's story and her tips for falling back in love.