6 Things That I Hated Hearing When I Was Struggling To Get Pregnant

1. “When are you having kids?” – Um, never – at least at the rate things have been going. Not because I don’t want to, but because things aren’t exactly working out the way we had hoped. Here’s the thing, though. I don’t really want to talk about it right now and I’m fairly certain that you don’t want to stand here and listen to me whine for an hour about how unfair it is. It’s probably just better that I smile and tell you that I’m not sure.

2. “If you stop trying, you’ll get pregnant.” Is that so? Isn’t that just the irony of life, except it doesn’t always work out quite like that? Sometimes, it’s not a simple matter of luck and timing. Sometimes, there really is something wrong. For some, fertility is simple. For others, it’s a lot more complex. You can never predict how hard or how easy it’s going to be for any one person.

3. “Enjoy being able to sleep at night.” – Trust me when I tell you that I have a very good idea of what I’m going to be getting myself into. I also know what I want more than anything else in this entire world. Do you honestly think that your threats of never being able to sleep again are going to scare me off? Not a chance. There are things that come with parenting that scare me far more than the lack of sleep.

4. “Just Relax and it’ll happen.” – Refer to #2 above. Not always the case. While less stress is definitely good for you overall, it isn’t a guarantee of fertility. Calm doesn’t necessarily equate to conception. Trust me, I wish it did.

5. “You can borrow mine for a while.” – I may love your kids – really I do, but I still want my own. Babysitting just isn’t the same. Sure, spending time with your kids is awesome, but I’ll never have the same kind of relationship with yours as what I would with my own.

6. “I got pregnant within a month.” – Good for you! I’m going on more months than I can count and I’m still not. While I’m always happy for friends and family that have a relatively easy time conceiving, not everyone does. There comes a point where it just hurts more than anything else. It’s not even necessarily a matter of jealousy, merely frustration.

Were there things that you hated hearing when you were struggling to get pregnant? Leave a comment and share what’s on your list.