4 People Who Make Infertility Harder

These people mean well by going onto Dr. Google or other basic textbooks on infertility and like to recite what is simply the tip of the iceberg on the subject of getting pregnant:

“You're more likely to get pregnant after your first child.”

“If you are ovulating then you are fine.”

“You have to be a certain age, weight and health style to be considered infertile.”

Sometimes the people who say these things aren't just Joe Shmoes. They are your own doctor when you express concerns about having trouble conceiving and don't understand that not everyone's body fits into textbooks. Luckily, this is why we have fertility specialists.

The “You Need to Relax” Guru

I want to give the middle finger to every person who says this. When we were having issues again with conceiving, I began brining up my concerns to a few friends and family about how this looks like a repeat of our last pregnancy.

“Oh, you're just stressed. You need to relax.”

I hate to break it to these people, but stress is just part of an everyday feeling. I'm stressed that this bill didn't get paid on time. I'm stressed that the dog was sick last night and barfed in the bedroom. I'm stressed because the toddler thinks ketchup should be painted on my walls and carpet. And I'm stressed that I'm back in the saddle again with no explanation of why it's taking over a year. No amount of yoga and massage classes are going to help someone with real infertility.

The “Fate” Fairies

These people like to speak on behalf of God or any creator that is the cause of infertility. When bad things happen, no one wants to hear that it was “meant to be.” Nothing is meant to be. Even the Pope himself said that God gave us the tools on this Earth to be smart and not leave it by chance! Why should I just accept this condition when I know there are ways to overcome this? Whether it's medicine, surgery, or adoption, the ball is still in my court, so I'm going to do my best to take control.

The Witch Doctors

These people are almost believable depending on your level of desperation.

“If you drink this tea three times a day, hop backwards on a full moon and use these oils on your dried-up uterus, you will get pregnant.”