My First Thoughts When I Found Out I Was Pregnant Again

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The first thing I thought was I’m not sure I’m ready to be pregnant again.  My first pregnancy was no picnic. I suffered with Hyperemesis (a severe form of morning sickness that sent me to the hospital twice). We worried over my weak kidneys and anemia the entire time. I had sugar issues that required me to adhere to a special diet. Then, I battled hypertension and high blood pressure that threatened to turn into pre-eclampsia in the final months of my pregnancy. As if all that wasn’t enough, I had to be induced at 41 weeks and endured a 28 hour labor resulting in a beautiful 9 pound 11 ounce healthy boy.

It was a nightmare with a great ending. Of course I would do anything for my son and he was totally worth it, but did I really want to do it all again? Could I physically and emotionally handle it again?

The second fear I wrestled with in those morning hours was much less rational. I wondered What would happen to our first child?  He’s only two years old. I hadn’t planned on having my children so close together. My son is still a baby in so many ways. Now he would have to share Mommy and Daddy. He would have to share everything. Would he feel shafted or resentful? Would he be forced to grow up too quickly? How could I possibly make him a “big brother” when he is still just a “baby boy?” 

As the clock ticked by, I became more accustomed to the thought of having a second child and my thoughts turned to more practical notions like Hooray! Now he will probably wean! Finally! I’ve breastfed my son for more than two years now. It has been a beautiful experience and I wouldn’t trade it for anything. It was best for him. It was best for us. But… at a certain point you just want to be done. I reached that point just before he turned two and since then I’ve been trying to wean. 

Weaning isn’t easy. I feel guilty about weaning him instead of letting him stop on his own. I feel selfish for wanting to stop, but I really, really want to stop. I’ve heard that often when a woman gets pregnant, the nursing child will wean because the hormones change the milk. I really hope that happens for us. Wouldn’t that be nice? 

Then, I thought about potty training. Potty training is my other toddler mom nemesis. I’m so jealous of the parents who are able to potty train their children in days! I’ve read all the books and tried all the methods. Since I’m pregnant again, I can no longer delay potty training “until he’s ready.” Well I could, but who wants to deal with two in diapers? Nah, I think it’s time to tackle the potty training.

The last thing I thought about before I rolled over and shook my husband awake: What will we name it? It’s a silly little question that marked a turning point for me.  I was ready. I was ready to potty train, ready to deal with the pregnancy monsters lurking in my nightmares, ready to take on two kids, and definitely ready to wean my son. So I woke my husband and said to him “Guess what! I’m pregnant. What will we name it?”

Written by: Sara Parise

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66 Responses to “My First Thoughts When I Found Out I Was Pregnant Again”

  1. I was in pure shock. I wasn’t sure if I could have kids (I had lost 4 within the first month of pregnancy ) and he was told he would never have children from a young age (he had one “miracle” son) I found out when I went to the dr. For the flue and was told I had the flue as well as pregnant. The dr gave me a week off work to processes. I cried tears of joy for a month. The shock that we have a beautiful baby girl still hasn’t worn off, she is now 2 weeks old.

  2. I wasn’t happy at all about my second. I felt I was being kind of selfish taking away all the attention from my 3 yr old. When I was in labor, he still didn’t have a name, I was still very unhappy.i knew i loved him, but i was scared i wouldnt bond like i did with mt first. But once he was born, I knew it was meant to be and I love him. I, as well, had an awful uncomfortable pregnancy. You aren’t alone in those feelings! Don’t let someone like her bring you down!

  3. Oh don’t worry she didn’t bring me down in the slightest! But she did show her truest colors. Her statement is all on her and her alone.

  4. I was scared $#%&!@*less with my first… Best thing that ever happened… You said you weren’t happy, but that doesn’t mean you don’t love it… Having babies is expensive… And very time consuming… If your an involved parent… I’m $#%&!@*uming the very mean response above is from a woman who wants a baby more than her own life… Only from that perspective can what she said be accepted… And I feel for her…my husband and I have had no contraception issues… However…. My sister in law has been trying twelve years… I’ve actually thought about offering suragacy(sp)… Shoe on other foot…

  5. Oh! I’m so sorry. I know you must’ve been so excited to be pregnant, but I can imagine you might’ve been heartbroken to know your dad wouldn’t meet his grandchild. And I’m sure you were in the depths of grief. My dad is still alive and has yet to meet our 7 month old baby girl.

  6. I’m not sure I’m ready for another (had a 2 1/2 year old) even though we were trying for number 2 at the time.

  7. Am I ready for this again and this was with my 2nd

  8. Crap I’m not ready for a baby!!

  9. My first one was planned, but my second was a complete surprise. My first was 9 months old when I got pregnant again. I was planning on having another one, just not quite that soon. My oldest (21) starts his senior year at SDSU today and my youngest (19) has been working since 9th grade and went to school full time. He goes to Grossmont College and wants to be a cop. I couldn’t be more proud of them.

  10. Baby #1 My moms going to kill me (I was 19) Baby #2 There must be a mistake …..

  11. Holy crap, this is actually real! This is finally happening to us!?!?!?!?!?! (my exact thoughts)

  12. Found out when I was at the hospital for a car accident. They kept telling me but I was doped up on pain Meds and it was in the early hours of the morning. I kept saying they were lying.